Control vs. Leadership

Trying to "control" people is a bad thing.  First of all it doesn't work.  Second you are signing up for everyone to hate you... passionately.   Those who rule with an iron hand, order others around, and demand things are difficult people.  Controllers do not listen to or seek input from their subordinates.  The order is issued without any thought or consideration as to what the subordinates viewpoint on the project might be.  Controllers either find themselves embroiled in conflict or simply feared.   If you are a controlling person... 1.) admit it and 2.) fix it.

Leadership is a very different style.  A leader sets things up for success and then steps back and lets things happen.  People have the freedom to participate or not.  By giving people the option of participation it allows people to take ownership of the project.  It also allows for input which may result in an improved project.

Here are some examples:
Family control:  Mom (or Dad) set up a family gathering and demand that everyone will be there at the time and place they have chosen.  There are no excused absences.  People are made to feel guilty if they do not participate.  No one really wants to come and ultimately the family withdraws from each other.
Family Leadership:  Mom (or Dad) float an idea for a gathering to all.  Input as to times, dates, and activities are taken note of.  After considering every one's thoughts.  Mom and Dad set a time and date and invite all who can make it.  It is optional and their are no emotional penalties to not attending.  Plans are made to ensure that a "good time can be had by all".  Things are planned so that there are various options (food and activities) so people do not find themselves forced into food and activities that they hate.  Leaders also set boundaries for family members if needed.  A wise leader will choose these battles carefully.  Family members find themselves wanting to gather because it was so much fun.

Controlling boss:  The boss orders his employees to do things his way.  Employees have no input as to how to approach the project and are severely criticized if they do not produce the desired results.  The boss micromanages and interferes with the employees work thus slowing things down.
Leadership boss:  The boss outlines the project that needs to be done and the timeline for completion.  The boss takes volunteers for each piece of the task.  If their are no volunteers the boss is then in the position to assign tasks.  Input is taken, materials are made available, and employees are asked to accomplish the task.  The boss is there to supervise, problem solve, and help as needed.  If employees refuse to work (their option) then the boss (his option) may fire the employee.  Employees take pride and ownership of the project and great things happen.

What are your thoughts on leadership?